In a broader sense, researchers are asking about the meaning, processes, and effect of forgiveness.
The APA defines forgiveness as the process (or result of a process) that involves a change in emotion and attitude regarding an offender. There is a divide in opinion, however, as to whether or not forgiveness also involves some sort of reconciliation.
Regardless of your definition, the concept of moving past the past in order to better enjoy the present is not such a novel concept. Boosting your awareness of the present and becoming more mindful has been shown to reduce stress and burnout. Mindfulness is an affirmed approach to improving your wellbeing, and studies suggest that there may be a similar science to forgiveness.
Researchers have looked at the effects of forgiveness on a variety of populations, from children to married couples. Interestingly enough, even those more inclined to hold grudges found that, with persistence and a guided program, one can reduce the stress and anger associated with a grudge, ultimately improving one’s overall mental health.
Attempting to forgive may seem like a tall order for some; depending on the situation, even thinking about forgiving someone who has harmed us can elicit feelings of anger and injustice. Psychology scholars explain that instead of focusing on the end goal of forgiveness, it can be easier to focus on smaller positive steps (such as expressing empathy, which can help you better relate to or understand an aggressor).
Additionally, research has shown that those with religious convictions are more likely to be able to achieve forgiveness through prayer or the practice of their religious or spiritual belief systems (or just belief systems).
There are many different paths to approach forgiveness, and it helps to know where you can receive help on that journey.
Forgiveness is a common theme in psychiatric work. Carilion Clinic's Psychiatry & Behavioral Medicine team encourages patients who are weighed down by anger and sadness to reach out for help. Support can come from behavioral health professionals, a religious or spiritual mentor or a close friend or family member. Starting those conversations and sharing concerns are great first steps in the process of forgiveness.
However you approach it, forgiveness can be empowering and healing. Whether you seek out a professional or simply make a personal effort to embrace empathy and mindfulness, forgiveness’s physical and mental benefits make it a real contender in improving your quality of life.
