Marjie, your story is so compelling and so enlightening. Thank you for sharing. I hope that I, too, can be an Owl when I am supervising others, although sometimes it is difficult for me to stand back and not do what I know how to do as I allow others to develop their expertise with difficult situations. Thanks for pointing out some of the ethical issues that surround using experimental drugs in children. Yes, we need to fully explain all possible effects of a drug--both good and bad. Students, residents, and even experienced doctors need to learn how to communicate in an open and understandable way. It is often difficult to get the students to talk about tests and results in real words, and not the typical medical shorthand we use all the time (as you pointed out). Patients are PEOPLE; their families are PEOPLE, and they deserve to be treated as such.
Once again, than you for taking the time to write, and for publicly reliving some painful moments from your past. I am sure I would have found Dr. Simon a kindred spirit. And I love owls.